As one of the performers for The Affix Group, I’ve had the privilege of performing music for eight years for residents in many of Denver’s senior communities. I’ve played in duos, trios and even full bands of four.
I recently had the opportunity to provide music as a solo performer to individuals who are unable to join the others for group entertainment. For one reason or another, they are confined to their rooms.
Going from room to room was the most meaningful and memorable experience I’ve had in these past two years. To observe residents who clearly have difficulty communicating, even physically moving, come to life with the one-on-one sharing of live music was absolutely magical to me.
In one experience, I visited a gentleman in the advanced stages of dementia. His wife, who was in the room while I was there, claimed that her husband had not spoken for a very long time due to his affliction. After I played one of my songs, he said, “Good.” Needless to say, his wife was very surprised. It was amazing to me that something as simple as our shared, personalized musical experience could have such power.
Another gentleman I visited could hardly articulate or sit up, and yet sang along with me, barely audibly, songs that he chose from a list I provided to him. Watching his mouth move to the words of the songs when he could barely speak was sheer joy to me. Before I left the room, I touched his shoulder and thanked him for singing along with me. He smiled. He was clearly in pain and his smile touched me deeply.
Music, once admitted to the soul, becomes a sort of spirit, and never dies
Edward Bulwer Lytton
Sharing music with those who are no longer able to reach out or socialize with others has been the highlight of my two years as an Affix musical performer. I know I made a difference. I connected with these folks in a way that only genuine caring and the power of music can.
I helped start this business because I care so much for seniors and I’ve read articles provided by the Alzheimer’s Association of how the power of music can trigger memories and stimulate the brain in ways nothing else can.
To watch these frail folks respond to this personalized, one-on-one musical sharing in the comfort of their own room has been deeply moving for me; truly the most meaningful, rewarding and unforgettable experiences I’ve had in these past two years.
– Monica Lobser, Affix Performer and Co-Founder